Ms_Twana
New Member
After posting in another thread, I realized that I have learned a lot from being both natural and relaxed. I also learned that my opinion and the way I view things have changed as well.
I didn't really have much of an opinion on hair before I join LHCF. Soon after joining I transitioned and did the BC. So I had a little bit of what some people think of as the "natural view." I couldn't understand why some ladies would use the excuse "a relaxer makes my hair more manageble." I mean, come on....ALL hair is manageble whether it's relaxed or natural. It's all about learning how to care for what ever kind of hair you have.
Then, 2 1/2 year laters, I began to understand just what those ladies above were saying. MY hair then became unmanageble the longer it got due to the thickness in its natural state. Soooo....2 1/2 years after I hoped I would never get a relaxer again.....I got a relaxer again.
I have learned that those ladies that I spoke of above aren't necessarily saying their hair needs a relaxer to be tamed (like I thought they were saying). They were saying that having a relaxer makes their hair more manageble for their lifestyle. I'm sure if I had a different lifestyle, I would have been able to continue to devote 3 hours to wash, detangle, and style my hair. But, with my current lifestyle, I could no longer afford to offer that much time EVERYTIME I washed.
I still think, for me, that it was great that I had the chance to experience both natural hair and chemically treated hair. I think that it would be great if everyone could. But I also realize that not everyone can...for what ever reason they can't. So, I'm just thankful that I now have both perspectives, and that my views have changed.
Now what about you?? Have you learned anything?
I didn't really have much of an opinion on hair before I join LHCF. Soon after joining I transitioned and did the BC. So I had a little bit of what some people think of as the "natural view." I couldn't understand why some ladies would use the excuse "a relaxer makes my hair more manageble." I mean, come on....ALL hair is manageble whether it's relaxed or natural. It's all about learning how to care for what ever kind of hair you have.
Then, 2 1/2 year laters, I began to understand just what those ladies above were saying. MY hair then became unmanageble the longer it got due to the thickness in its natural state. Soooo....2 1/2 years after I hoped I would never get a relaxer again.....I got a relaxer again.
I have learned that those ladies that I spoke of above aren't necessarily saying their hair needs a relaxer to be tamed (like I thought they were saying). They were saying that having a relaxer makes their hair more manageble for their lifestyle. I'm sure if I had a different lifestyle, I would have been able to continue to devote 3 hours to wash, detangle, and style my hair. But, with my current lifestyle, I could no longer afford to offer that much time EVERYTIME I washed.
I still think, for me, that it was great that I had the chance to experience both natural hair and chemically treated hair. I think that it would be great if everyone could. But I also realize that not everyone can...for what ever reason they can't. So, I'm just thankful that I now have both perspectives, and that my views have changed.
Now what about you?? Have you learned anything?
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