HybridAngel
New Member
Hi everyone! I am new to the forum, and I think it is absolutely WONDERFUL how everyone shares tips! I have been reading them all day!
I find that no one else that I know is concerned about their hair like I am, so finding this forum makes me feel like I now have a bunch of new best friends, and we all have something in common!
I can tell that you know what you're talking about here, so I will share with you my hair dilemma.
I have always cared about my hair, and when I was a teenager my length was all the way to my waist. And when I was even younger than that, I could sit on parts of it! I got my first relaxer when I was in the 10th grade, and every stylist said the same thing: "you really don't need one", or "I won't have to leave the relaxer on for long (usually 5 minutes)", and even "you won't need to get a touch-up for 4-6 months". Well, as I grew taller, my hair got a little shorter, but has never been above my shoulders. However, for the past 8 years, it has been stuck at the same length- a little past my shoulders. Three years ago, I stopped getting relaxers all together, thinking that my hair would grow faster than with what seemed to be too harsh chemicals. (I need to read the different hair types to figure out mine, but it is not kinky, is strong, and easy to straighten, if that helps.)So I found a stylist who is truly into hair care, and not interested in cutting off my hair! My ends are fine, and rarely get dry. So for two 1/2 years, she WARM COMBS my hair after washing it, then flat irons it. She is careful about not applying a lot of heat to my hair (even though it is strong). But for the time that I had no chemicals, it STILL STAYED THE SAME LENGTH! so, tired of the lack of growth (and lack of versatility), I went against my stylists wishes, and got a virgin relaxed in May of last yoer (Exactly 12 months ago). I went to a different stylist to do this, since I figured she wouldn't do it! I never got a touch up after last year's virgin relaxer, I just get the roots warm combed when I see my stylist. (Sorry about the long story, but I wanted to give you some history
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NOW- MY DILEMMA: Granted, when I stopped getting relaxers, my ends thickened up like they used to, but I did not see length- just added thickness. So, I figured that I might as well get a relaxer again, but since it has been a year, I don't know if I need a virgin relaxer, or if I shoud just get the roots relaxed?? And, if I do get a relaxer again, I really only need a touch up every 5-6 months... how will the stylist know where to stop the application, asince it will be more new growth than if I re-touched more regularly??
And, is it OK to warm press the roots only in between touch-ups? What is the best, most mild relaxer that also encourages growth, (if there even IS such a relaxer!) Right now I am debating an appointment for a relaxer, or one with my regular stylist (who says I don't need a relaxer at all) and get a press and flat iron again. I do miss being able to leave it wet, and letting it dry naturally, though! But, my MAIN goal is healthy hair, thick again, and to my waist!! PLEASE HELP ME!!
I have always cared about my hair, and when I was a teenager my length was all the way to my waist. And when I was even younger than that, I could sit on parts of it! I got my first relaxer when I was in the 10th grade, and every stylist said the same thing: "you really don't need one", or "I won't have to leave the relaxer on for long (usually 5 minutes)", and even "you won't need to get a touch-up for 4-6 months". Well, as I grew taller, my hair got a little shorter, but has never been above my shoulders. However, for the past 8 years, it has been stuck at the same length- a little past my shoulders. Three years ago, I stopped getting relaxers all together, thinking that my hair would grow faster than with what seemed to be too harsh chemicals. (I need to read the different hair types to figure out mine, but it is not kinky, is strong, and easy to straighten, if that helps.)So I found a stylist who is truly into hair care, and not interested in cutting off my hair! My ends are fine, and rarely get dry. So for two 1/2 years, she WARM COMBS my hair after washing it, then flat irons it. She is careful about not applying a lot of heat to my hair (even though it is strong). But for the time that I had no chemicals, it STILL STAYED THE SAME LENGTH! so, tired of the lack of growth (and lack of versatility), I went against my stylists wishes, and got a virgin relaxed in May of last yoer (Exactly 12 months ago). I went to a different stylist to do this, since I figured she wouldn't do it! I never got a touch up after last year's virgin relaxer, I just get the roots warm combed when I see my stylist. (Sorry about the long story, but I wanted to give you some history
NOW- MY DILEMMA: Granted, when I stopped getting relaxers, my ends thickened up like they used to, but I did not see length- just added thickness. So, I figured that I might as well get a relaxer again, but since it has been a year, I don't know if I need a virgin relaxer, or if I shoud just get the roots relaxed?? And, if I do get a relaxer again, I really only need a touch up every 5-6 months... how will the stylist know where to stop the application, asince it will be more new growth than if I re-touched more regularly??
