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Was there ever a point in your natural hair journey

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Honestly, no I've never had the urge. I like being being natural because I have the best of both worlds. If want something different then I gets my hair did. I also like shocking people when I get my hair done. They can't believe how long my hair is when straightened.
 
Not for me because the only reason I ever relaxed besides just trying out a new look was because I believed my hair would grow long if it didn't break when I combed. Straight hair didn't get caught in the comb so I trusted that was the secret to getting my hair long.

Once I saw my hair grow long naturally and got addicted to the joy of being independent in my hair growing journey and not needing a second pair of eyes to monitor touch-ups and ensure no overlap or whatever, I couldn't get over the thrill of being natural. I never missed straight hair because I could wear it with a press...and I never go more than a week with straight hair coz it bores me.

I think if you knew what it is that makes you miss your relaxed hair or considered why you gave up relaxers, you might be able to decide if you want to stick with the natural journey or just return to what you miss. If your reasons for going natural outweigh those for relaxing (and it has to be more than thinking "hair is healthier and won't break"--coz we know many relaxed heads whose hair thrives and reaches long lengths), then you may consider a weave or wig...till this feeling goes away. Perhaps you just like change and hate to have one look for too long. Wigs can afford you that excitement without you having to make drastic changes that you might regret.

Otherwise if the reasons to relax outweigh those to stay natural, then don't let what others think or do stop you from enjoying your hair. Remember even if your previous relaxed journey was a flop, with more knowledge you can enjoy beautiful tresses like Spring, Supergirl, Crackers...to name a few. ;)
 
The only time I get frustrated is when I am going on hour two of detangling/moisturizing after washing. I think the key is making sure to have a lot of free time when you start working on your natural hair. I have a party at my apartment with music and the tv so I don't notice how long it takes me to do. lol
 
I can honestly say that I've never had the urge to relax after going natural. Once I did my BC, I knew I'd be natural for life--even now, when I straighten my hair, I can't wait to go back to my natural texture--can't do that with a relaxer.
 
I never had any desire to relax my hair during my transition (as I was so looking forward to going natural).
 
Nope. I wanted to be natural so bad even when I was relaxed. I can't imagine going back not when I can flat iron, weave it, or slap on a wig. I would miss my curly-coils too much to let them go.
 
I 've had the urge and I also ended up texlaxing..then relaxing (cause the texlax left my hair look stringy and crazy)..then transitioning or cutting immediately after..I've done this twice..but I have been natural since my last BC a little over a yr..and I dont see myself going back..I hate my hair tex'd and relaxed..actually I dont care for my hair str8 @ all..I just need sum more length and it will be all groovy..
 
NO. Just remembering the poor condition relaxing put my hair in is enough to keep me from it.
 
I don't call it an itch but it's a consideration. There's a lhcf'er who relaxed after 15 years of being natural - she just wanted something different. I can relate to that but haven't done it yet. If they had relaxers that only lasted for a few months that would be ideal. BKT doesn't count coz from what I've gathered it won't get my hair type straight other than for the first few days after the treatment - and when you think of it if you flat iron your hair to bone straight twice in one sitting you'll have a press that lasts for a few days with or without the keratin solution.
 
I had two dreams recently that I was relaxed. It seems my hair just grows out and not down and I really would like to eventually do a bun. A French braid. Have my hair half up, half down. Even if I relaxed now, how much hair would I have anyway? I am going to ride this out. I do plan on getting a Maxiglide though.
 
the first time i attempted to transition, i relaxed after maybe 6 months into the transition.

i ended up feeling horrible about giving up on my transition and chopped my hair off 4 months after that relaxer. i've been natural 5 years (today is my anni) and havent once had the urge to relax.

straight hair is fun sometimes (and if i want that, i'll flat iron), but i love my natural hair.
 
YES

I'm going through this now.

I'm less than a month away from a year of transitioning. It seems my hair is growing inversely. The more it grows the shorter it gets! I went from being able to put it in a lot of hair styles to.... a mini-bun. or a nasty little sparse pony tail.

I've been wearing it straight my entire transition, and its getting harder and harder to straighten myself, yet I can't seem to figure out the twist or braid out. In addition, since I'm wearing it flat ironed, I find that (esp in London weather) it reverts easily and I walk around with frizz and poof on my edges.

Sigh.

I'm feeling the itch more than ever.

But I'm going to stick it out, at least for now. Why? No idea. :perplexed
 
Honestly, no. I had thought through the transitioning process for so long before I began and then since I never BC'ed, it took me 2 years and 3 months to totally transition to natural and even during all that time, I knew that I would be done with relaxers forever...and I have been...that was almost 6 years ago...
 
I actually stopped relaxing before learning about hair boards. My scalp is sensitive and burns easily. I had chronic dandruff and my skin was changing color around my hair line. My hair always broke off and never made it past neck. But what's keeping me from relaxing now is that I don't want to deal with two textures.
 
I'm currently transitioning and every few months I get the urge to relax. I stop myself because I want see how things go once I'm 100% natural. Plus I think how much time I would've "wasted" transitioning (I'm currently 15 months in). The chemicals in relaxer also freak me out. Hang in there!
 
Quite honestly, I'm nervous. I've never made it past 6 months natural. I'm hoping to for the first time in my life BC and remain natural. I am learning a lot of info, so I'm looking forward to the years to come.
 
I thought about it this spring but one of my (relaxed) friends talked me through it.
It rained that day and then my hair dried with no products at my disposal. I looked pitiful and I took and ID photo for work. I keep that photo as a reminder of how horrible my hair looked that day.

Right now, at this moment I love the options natural hair leaves me and I get tons of inspiration from this board!
 
Whenever I get the urge to relax, I think about why I want to relax. Normally it's just for the straight look, but then I know I will miss my curls. So I buy I nice lace front wig, braid my hair and wear the wig and I'm over it.
 
I was having issues with ssk's and just a lot of tangling so I was going to relax it. Then I remembered how much I HATED sitting in the salon forever and how my scalp ALWAYS burned...how I really don't like my hair when it's straightened and that I miss my big curls. I thought about how long it took to grow out the relaxer without doing a BC. After thinking about all of that I'm pretty much back to loving my natural hair...it helps to really know what your hair likes so you can cater to its needs! :)
 
Thank you ladies for your honesty. The reason I wanted to relax was to get a little bit more length...since my hair seems to be growing out more then down. But then I thought about how the chemicals affect my hair, and scalp. I do love my hair straight...and its easier to style when it's straight. But in the end relaxing is not good for my scalp. I'm going to try hard to stick this natural thing out.
 
Honestly, nope the idea has never popped in my head or interested me. When I decided to leave the chemicals alone, I did it. The potential scalp burns were enough to make me never want to try it out again.
 
Never in 14 years. I think it would be a waste for me to go back to chemically treated hair. Blah, relaxed hair is boring on me.
 
i hope i never have that itch .. cause i will do it, lol i had an ITCH to go natural as soon as the idea popped into my head it sat there ... festering until i finally BCed ... lol well maybe i shouldn't use the words festering but LOL you know what i mean. i mean right now .. i only have 4' of hair lol so there no itch right NOW but whoaaaa mama ... when i get deeper into this journey it's gonna get harddddd
 
The only time it happened is when I straighten my hair during the summer and it reverted so quickly. I then realized that I hate the feeling of relaxer on my scalp and then the feeling was gone.

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Yup!!!! But I enjoy my hair so much and feel that natural is best for me. I throw my hair in braids or rock a wig if I'm feeling extra frustrated.
 
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